You may be asking yourself, why do I keep attracting the same type of guy or girl in my life. The answer is an easy one. You still have the same energy that you had when you were in your last relationship.
I know, it is easier to blame the other person for the breakup or difficulty in the relationships you have had in the past. It is even more fun when you're talking about it with friends at a dinner party or over a drink.
I think it is fine to do that and in some cases, it brings a welcomed temporary relief that is needed. However, it doesn't solve the problem you are dealing with and the more you ignore it the longer it sticks around.
If you want to work on your relationships with others then you first have to work on the relationship you have with yourself. Yes, we have to go back to you. I get it, this is not something we have been trained to do and it feels weird. Remember, you don't have to deal with your feelings but you will be in the same continuous loop for quite a bit longer. Are you ready to proceed? Good, let's go.
My first recommendation is to move off of how a man or woman, friend, or lover is going to make you better. I want you to start remembering that you are all you need in life. If you have a good relationship with yourself it will be easier to attract similar energy in someone else. I gave in the example of magnetic attraction in my blog Click Here To Read and how it is directly correlated to your relationships.
Now, take this new insight and start to apply it to your life. As you go about your day, I want you to pay attention to the things you like and the things you don't prefer. I want you to be with the feelings you have with both. How does a good cup of coffee or tea make you feel? When your boss asks you to do your TPI reports, feel that sensation and just be with it. I need you to take note of the visceral feeling you are having at that moment. You can write them down or just log them in your memory.
I know, it is easier to blame the other person for the breakup or difficulty in the relationships you have had in the past. It is even more fun when you're talking about it with friends at a dinner party or over a drink.
I think it is fine to do that and in some cases, it brings a welcomed temporary relief that is needed. However, it doesn't solve the problem you are dealing with and the more you ignore it the longer it sticks around.
If you want to work on your relationships with others then you first have to work on the relationship you have with yourself. Yes, we have to go back to you. I get it, this is not something we have been trained to do and it feels weird. Remember, you don't have to deal with your feelings but you will be in the same continuous loop for quite a bit longer. Are you ready to proceed? Good, let's go.
My first recommendation is to move off of how a man or woman, friend, or lover is going to make you better. I want you to start remembering that you are all you need in life. If you have a good relationship with yourself it will be easier to attract similar energy in someone else. I gave in the example of magnetic attraction in my blog Click Here To Read and how it is directly correlated to your relationships.
Now, take this new insight and start to apply it to your life. As you go about your day, I want you to pay attention to the things you like and the things you don't prefer. I want you to be with the feelings you have with both. How does a good cup of coffee or tea make you feel? When your boss asks you to do your TPI reports, feel that sensation and just be with it. I need you to take note of the visceral feeling you are having at that moment. You can write them down or just log them in your memory.
The fact that you are experiencing these feelings in the consciousness of your mind and body will give you insight into how you go through your life. This new information will help you to see why you choose to do what you do. Once you understand the choices you have made, you can start to see if you want to continue doing those activities or start to make other choices.
Remember, every choice has an impact on you, both fulfilling and draining.
This is the first step toward your own connection with yourself. Be easy with your judgment at this time. We as humans tend to most hard on ourselves and this doesn't serve you now. Be curious and forgiving to yourself over the next week and see what happens.
Rember, you are the creator and it all starts and ends with you.
This is the first step toward your own connection with yourself. Be easy with your judgment at this time. We as humans tend to most hard on ourselves and this doesn't serve you now. Be curious and forgiving to yourself over the next week and see what happens.
Rember, you are the creator and it all starts and ends with you.