For some of us, it is when our health is failing. For others, it is when your child or children are facing great struggles. And sometimes it is when your career or love life is falling apart. It doesn't matter which one it is or if it is several of them at one time, life itself can be challenging.
So, what do you do when your life is falling apart? My first suggestion is that you take a step back and look at your life as a whole. Ask yourself these questions, are you healthy, are your children safe? Do you have a supportive partner or friend? Are you living in a safe, comfortable home? And do you have enough money to eat? If you can answer yes to one, two, or all of these questions, you are doing just fine.
I don't believe it is pollyannish to feel good when your basic needs are being met, and you're in good health. In my opinion, this gives you a good base from which to start looking at your problems. What are your perceptions, and what are these situations trying to tell you?
So many times in life, I have tried to mask my pain. I could do it with medicine, alcohol, or any other distraction (hello NFL), but know I take the information in and "be" with it the best that I can. I don't want to miss any more time with my feelings and emotions. I don't want to delay my experiences anymore. And, I can share with you that they have always helped me in the next space in my life. I don't always know how or why things happen to me, but they just do.