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I had an interesting conversation with my wife the other day. She teaches conscious quantum physics to her membership group at mystateofbeing.org. We were discussing the differences between being in judgment vs. observation. Following quantum physics, what you focus on is what you create in your life. For example, if I'm in perpetual judgment of, say, people who are unkind and don't recognize me, that is what I will experience. However, If I don't judge the people in my life but observe their behavior toward me, I can be discerning and not spend much time with them.
In today's post, I will give definitions and examples of judgment and observation. In addition, I will provide you with scenarios so that you can have an opportunity to recognize which camp you fall into and how often. Why? So that you have the chance to create a world you prefer. In other words, the life you've always dreamed of.
Firstly, what is Judgment? It is an integral aspect of the human experience, intricately woven into the fabric of our daily lives and interactions. From a personal perspective, judgment encompasses the process of
forming opinions, making decisions, and assessing the world around us based on our values, beliefs, and experiences. It serves as a compass, guiding our actions and interactions, influencing how we perceive others and ourselves.
Process
Moreover, at its core, judgment involves critically evaluating situations and individuals. As a result, this evaluative process is informed by a complex interplay of cognitive functions, emotional responses, and social conditioning.
We do not form our judgments in a vacuum; we base them on past experiences, cultural norms, and personal biases. Consequently, each person's judgment is unique, reflecting their distinct life story and worldview.
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In many ways, judgment is a double-edged sword. On one hand, it is essential for survival and functioning in society. It allows us to navigate complex social landscapes, make informed choices, and establish boundaries. For instance, we use judgment to discern between safe and unsafe situations, select trustworthy friends and partners, and pursue meaningful goals. Without the capacity for judgment, we would be adrift, unable to make sense of the myriad stimuli that bombard us daily.
However, judgment also has a shadow side, manifesting in prejudice, stereotyping, and unwarranted criticism. When judgments are formed hastily or without sufficient information, they can lead to misunderstandings and perpetuate harmful biases. Subsequently, the tendency to categorize and label can create divisions, fostering an "us versus them" mentality. This aspect of judgment underscores the importance of self-awareness and the need to reflect critically on our thought processes.
From a personal standpoint, my understanding of judgment has evolved. In my younger years, I often viewed judgment as a straightforward, almost binary process of right versus wrong, good versus bad. However, as I have matured, I have come to appreciate the nuances and complexities inherent in making judgments. I have learned that judgments are rarely black and white; they are often tinged with shades of gray, reflecting the multifaceted nature of human experiences.
I'm Sorry, truly
One pivotal realization in my journey of understanding judgment is the role of compassion. Compassion allows us to temper our judgments with empathy and understanding. It encourages us to consider the perspectives and circumstances of others before forming an opinion. Therefore, by fostering empathy, we can mitigate the negative aspects of judgment and promote a more inclusive and compassionate outlook.
Moreover, personal growth hinges on our ability to consider ourselves honestly. When balanced and constructive, self-judgment can be a powerful tool for introspection and personal expansion. It enables us to recognize our strengths and weaknesses, learn from our mistakes, and strive towards becoming better versions of ourselves. However, avoiding the pitfalls of harsh self-criticism is crucial. In most cases, we are our harshest critics without mercy. Being kind to yourself is not a strategy but a necessary part of growth.
It's not personal
Now, let's look at the term observation. Observation is a fundamental human faculty central to perceiving, understanding, and engaging with the world around us. From a personal perspective, observation encompasses carefully and attentively noticing and interpreting the myriad details that compose our environment and experiences. Through observation, we gather information, form insights, and make connections that inform our understanding of life.
Further, observation involves more than just seeing. It requires a conscious effort to pay attention, to look beyond the surface, and to consider the subtleties that might otherwise go unnoticed. For instance, when I walk through a park, I don't judge how the trees and flowers look; I observe the varying shades of green, the way the light filters through the leaves, and the interplay of colors that change with the seasons. Though seemingly minor, these details contribute to a richer and more nuanced appreciation of my surroundings. As a result, I'm simply enjoying what I see.
Moreover, observation plays a crucial role in learning and personal evolution. As a student, I have found that keen observation is essential for grasping complex concepts and developing critical thinking skills. Observing patterns, behaviors, and outcomes allows me to draw conclusions and make informed decisions. For example, when I was in sales, I liked studying human behavior, and careful observation of body language, facial expressions, and social interactions provided me with deeper insights into the prospect's requirements and desires.
Are you inspired, Yet?
In addition, observation is a critical component of creativity and problem-solving. Artists, writers, and inventors often rely on their observational skills to find inspiration and generate new ideas. I have experienced moments of creative breakthrough when I allowed myself to observe my surroundings with an open and curious mind. By noticing the ordinary in extraordinary ways, I have been able to transform simple observations into creative projects and innovative solutions. The blog you are reading is an example of just such a moment.
Further, observation also fosters empathy and understanding. When we take the time to observe others without judgment, we become more attuned to their emotions, needs, and perspectives. We are no longer taking the information personally. Consequently, our heightened awareness enables us to respond with greater sensitivity and compassion. For instance, observing subtle cues in my relationships, such as tone of voice and body language, helps me better understand and support my friends and family. Through observation, I can remove my ego and respond appropriately, even if they haven't explicitly stated what they need from me.
In addition, observation connects us to the present moment. In our fast-paced, technology-driven world, it is easy to become distracted and disconnected from our immediate experiences. Nevertheless, by cultivating the habit of mindful observation, we can anchor ourselves in the here and now. My wife teaches that all your power is in the present moment—not in the past or the future, but here and now.
Follow the Leader
Personally, I have found that taking a few moments in the morning to do my breath work, mantras, and meditation—brings a sense of calm and clarity. It brings me to the present moment and reminds me of all the beauty and love I already have and enjoy.
In conclusion, judgment, from a personal perspective, is a multifaceted process that shapes our interactions with the world and ourselves. Observation, from a personal perspective, is a multidimensional practice that enriches our lives in countless ways. Together, they both provide us with understanding and empathy, not only for others but also for ourselves. Remember, you can not offer others what you yourself can not receive. The biggest lesson I have learned to date is that I am worthy. And you are, too!
